Pornography is a cheap substitute for the real thing. It requires no commitment, no sacrifice, and no endurance. 

It cheapens sex because it makes it simply a physical feeling and act, nothing more. But sex is supposed to be an outflow of love in a relationship of commitment. Pornography is entirely relationshipless. You see, we reverse it. We first seek to satisfy our desire, when the first thing we are to be seeking is our spouses’ desire. Check out what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5.

When you put your marriage partner first, your desire will be satisfied ten times better than through sex outside of marriage or pornography. Look at it his way: sex is so precious to God that He wants it to be the byproduct of true love and sacrifice, not an end in and of itself.

True manliness is not being controlled by your drive but by the Holy Spirit of God who lives in you. No one modeled this more perfectly than Jesus Christ. And let me tell you: Satan did not leave out the temptation of lust when he harassed Christ for forty days in the wild.

So what do you do when you have this desire to look at pornography or glance a second time at a hot girl or fantasize about something you did in your past? You say, “Okay, desire, I’m going to let you know who’s in control.” And then instead of obeying your impulse, direct this desire to your spouse and let it be satisfied by first seeking her fulfillment. And if you aren’t married, you say, “Desire, you’re going to have to wait until you can be expressed to someone I’ve committed my life to.” Sex is too precious to throw around like confetti at a party. View it more like water in a dry land. You wouldn’t go pouring it on every random plant that looked thirsty (Prov 5:15-23).